Whether we like it or not, this is a visual world. We put so much importance on vision that we don't even start to realize how powerful our other senses are until we lose our sight. Our world is designed for creatures who can see.

As women, we would like to think that other people (men in particular) are as sensitive as we are and that we'll be judged holistically. In a perfect world that might be nice. If you are trying to attract men and dates (or just keep the flames alive with your current guy), the holistic approach doesn't work.

Men are visual creatures. They are biologically programmed to be that way. There's nothing you can do about that, the same way we can't do much about being sensitive. Yes, there are exceptions on both sides, but I'm not talking about them.

So if you're trying to attract men because you're looking for a partner or you want to keep the attraction with the guy you have now, you have no choice but to take care of yourself and let him see something he likes.

In other words: don't be super glam while single and let yourself go when you get the guy. Or, if you're not taking care of yourself, don't expect to attract a George Clooney. Because honestly, what you see around all the time is this:



It doesn't HAVE to be this way.

I'm not saying you have to be a model either. Thank God, there is a market for every single shape of gal out there. Some gorgeous guys love bigger girls and others are more attracted to the naturally anorexic type. The only requisite they always have in every case is that she takes care of herself, is healthy and enjoys herself.

And why would you consider being eye candy in your particular flavor? Because being well kept GIVES YOU CHOICES.

How many women you know stay with a loser slob only because they're scared to death that they will never meet anyone else, least of all better than that guy?

This is what you can do, starting today:

If looking for dates: make sure of who you are. Figure out who you are trying to attract, what are the characteristics the guy you want values the most and highlight them. In other words, if you are trying to attract an alpha guy who will give you a jet set life, being a hippy most likely won't help. Those guys want a supermodel. If you are not a supermodel and/or you can't look like one and it's not in your genes/emotional make up, think of a different guy to attract. Also do the suggestions below.

If you already have a guy: girl, look your best! Keep your skin and your body in the best shape. Have soft hair. Dress and make up with the colors that suit you the best. Wear clothes that highlight your assets and hide your flaws. Stay true to yourself and your style.

And most of all, smile a lot! Be happy regardless of who is at your side. Looks are the first thing that will attract a guy but he will stay ONLY if there is something else under the pretty face and body.

Just good looks are not enough the same way that just being brilliant is not enough.

If you let yourself go, up your game. Even if it's one thing at a time. You will notice the difference in your attitude and the quality of guys you start to attract. But it's not enough. Present yourself in the best way, always.

Show the world you care about yourself!

In what other ways can you show you care about yourself?